Relax, it's Just Sext...

They were talking about sexting on the radio this morn... ever send sexually suggestive text messages or naked photos of yourself to significant others or 'buddies? Well why-the-fuck-not??? Personally, I'm not so huge on the dirty text messages myself (that's a little too much work), but I'll definitely admit I'm guilty of sending a nude pic here & there :-D

Generally such messages have been reserved for girlfriends I've had in the past, but there have been more than a few times when that wasn't necessarily a prerequisite, lol. I really enjoy receiving sext messages/nude photos - always a blast whenever the fun is reciprocated on the other end.

Now that I think about it, I haven't gotten 1 in a while - soooo... if you've got my number............. lol. It's a no-brainer that you've gotta be careful with these kinds of messages & photos. It's seems everyday we learn of a prominent figure who goofed & sent compromising photos or messages that are later shared with the world.

But fuckit, I'm not running for office, nor am I ashamed of my body, so even if revealing photos of myself were somehow leaked to the public - big fucking deal. I actually think I'd be far more embarrassed by a sext message I'd composed than any nude photo of myself.

If you're a card carrying member of the 'Fun Police' & you remain completely uncomfortable with trusting your naked flicks with ANYone ever, the most obvious suggestion for you would be to keep your face out of the photo (if you want to be a punk about it, lol), that way if it's ever shared, folks can't be certain it's you.

Still everything aint for everybody & some people will continue to live like it's the 19th century forever, so to you folks I say... do you. Besides, I guess the last thing you want to do is offend someone who isn't quite as in touch with their sexuality (or yours).

I can only recall maybe 1 time that I actually managed to offend someone with a suggestive photo & it wasn't even nude, lol. As I recall, she never responded to the pic, she flat-out ignored it, rather. I'd soon come to find this women to be a bit of a prude - God bless her in each & every 1 of her future endeavors, but.... next!

To make a long blog short, I fully support sexting and/or nude photos of all kinds. It keeps things interesting & fun, whether you are or aren't involved a relationships. So yea, I've done it before & I'll certainly do it again - now c'mon, live a little & send him or her a little eye-candy right now! You scared?

Mission Compromised (breaking formation)...

I never before realized how conditional a state, good chemistry between 2 people can be. In years past, I guess I've been lucky as I've never before felt the need to force things because the chemistry always materialized on it's own, but its clear to me now that sometimes 2 people just don't have it.

You can say & do all of the right things but when the mutual attraction or sexual desire isn't obvious to both, it doesn't take long for the alienated party to begin losing interest before eventually raising the white flag in defeat. For those of you who'd argue it's about more than sex, trust & believe that this post references all forms of intimacy - throw a nigga a bone - damn, lol.

It's no one's fault I guess, but I'm definitely stuck in the 'friend-zone' with someone, so that, as they say, is that! Friend-zones are difficult to navigate & damn near impossible to get out of, meaning you can pretty much check any notions of physical/emotional intimacy at the door, lol.

I don't expect the following will garner much support from women, but if you're open-minded enough to hear me out, you too might recognize the ironic nature of it all. You see, there's always an inherent risk when a guy befriends a woman before sex is on the table (yea, you read that right).

As a result, we as men sometimes end up kicking ourselves for not being the ass-holes we're expected to be in the 1st place. Sure, historically, women have been encouraged to make a guy wait if she likes him, but uhhh... that's a pretty dated ideology & it most certainly doesn't apply across the board.

Then there's the ever so popular, "I've been burned before" spiel, lol. I love it when I get that 1 :-D But I'm giving you guys the benefit of doubt this go-round & assuming there's no need to elaborate any further on why living your life in fear of failure won't work either...

I figure it's probably best just to follow your heart & not some redundant study guide developed by others to justify their particular ways of living. On the other hand, if a woman's heart truly tells her to wait, then I guess Mr. Man (me in this case)is shit out of luck, in either instance, lol.

I know some will definitely consider my simplistic logic as a flawed outlook on life & that might indeed be the case, but be honest with yourself & decide which of the following 2 methods seems like the bigger waste of one's time:

-- Openly expressing the desire to have sex with a woman
you've only recently met & getting an on-the-spot decision...

-- Coming correct, putting in the time, playing all the
angles & possibly reaching the point of intimacy...

I'm just saying, method 1 seems like a huge time saver to me, lol. Besides, in today's age of the 'empowered' woman (who I might add enjoys the idea of sex just as much as men), the ass-hole has a much higher success rate - i.e. nice guys DO usually finish last. Any scientific study would surely expose the pattern here.

Which begs me to question, why we, as a society, choose to refer to such guys as 'ass-holes' to begin with. Honesty (no matter how brutal) should never be punished. Perhaps we should instead start using the term 'efficient' for these types of guys moving forward, lol.

But seriously, it's time to start developing an exit strategy on my end. I mean, it's not the end of the world, picking up yet another friend of the plutonic variety, but just how many friends does 1 guy need, really? Fuckit, if there's no chance in winning the war, I'm bringing home my troops - all of 'em!

Final Verdict: Honesty remains the best policy, even if that entails your perceiving me to be the quintessential ass-hole :o)p

Blue Balls, lol...

Just about quitting time & all I can thank about here at my desk is sex! I'm well aware of how touchy a subject sex can be for many, but I've never really viewed the topic as taboo myself. In contrast, I've always welcomed discussions regarding human sexuality & intercourse.

In recent months I've been trying to abstain from 'meaningless' sex, but uhhh... not sure how much longer I'll be able to wage this particular war. It's almost summer & my hormones are operating at maximum output, keeping them captive will only become more difficult in the coming weeks.

In case you're wondering, masturbation will NOT cut it as an adequate stop-gap either. Honestly, it would be so much easier to scrap this damn plan & give some willing woman 'the business' & simply call it a night, lol. But Ma-Dukes once told me, "nothing easy is worth having," so I've (reluctantly) kept that in mind as of late.

Geez, I sure picked a God-awful time to seek 'something more' in women, lol. Granted, I've never been super-quick to do the 'grown-up' with just any ol' woman, but I'd be liar if I told you guys I was looking for some unique challenge during this present moment of extreme weakness. I'm definitely second guessing some of those recently deleted phone numbers now, lmao.

Remaining disciplined is always hard work & it's even more difficult when you know you're the only one keeping score. Without a doubt, I'm in definite need of some chicken soup for the soul, but getting these thoughts out of my head helps me a great deal.

"Thanks for allowing me to share," lol...

The Kissing Game...

Remember those days back when a kiss was more than just a kiss? I'm talkin bout them days when u weren't even fuckin yet. Back in the day when you kissed somebody - it was quite the dramatic event, so that was ur boo (lol). Field trips, the back of the classroom, the school bus, the cafeteria... all of these places provide very fond (yet innocent) memories for the kid.

Things have definitely changed since those times. I guess nowadays we do everything in our power NOT to kiss someone (even during sex). Admittedly, alot of that certainly has to do with the fact that we handle our inter-personal relationships in a far more casual manner (often times reserving those sweet kisses for that someone special) than at any other time, yet & still - it's a shame, but at least we still seem to consider one thing sacred I figure.

It's rather easy to have your sexual needs fulfilled outside of a relationship, but taking care of those emotional needs is another story altogether. I guess that's what I miss most about my last meaningful relationship - that instant gratification that came from just knowing someone really cared & looked out for you. In the meantime, guess I'll continue to maintain the all important status-quo & keep puttin it down for the people, lol...